Essential Family: Essential Communication

Scripture Verses

Ephesians 4:22-32


The God of this universe, the Creator of heaven and earth, our Eternal King, wants to communicate with you today.

Meaning of Communication

  • A process, whether verbal or nonverbal, of sharing information with another person in a way that they understand what you are saying

Mechanics of Communication

  • What we mean to say
  • What we say
  • What the other person hears
  • What they think they heard
  • How they respond to what they think they heard
  • What we think they said about what we said!
  • Talking, Listening, Understanding

Messages about Communication

  • Proverbs 15:23; 18:21; 25:11; 26:22; 29:20
  • Job 19:2
  • 1 Peter 3:10
  • James 3

Matters of Miscommunication

  • Excuses
  • Verbal and nonverbal
  • Sometimes childish
    • Pouting, melodrama, tap dancing
  • Sin
  • We need to learn how to speak, listen and understand

Means of Communication

  • Levels of communication
  • Barriers to communication
  • Doorways to communication

Mouth One – Ears Two

  • Listening means you are NOT thinking about what you are going to say next
  • Listening is politely waiting for your turn to speak
  • Listening isn’t a passive part of conversation
  • Listening may not be your natural preference
  • Listening …
    • Shows respect
    • Builds relationships
    • Increases knowledge
    • Generates ideas
    • Builds loyalty
    • A great way to help others and yourself
    • Proverbs 18:13
    • James 1:19
  • Good listening attributes
    • Look at the speaker
    • Don’t interrupt
    • Focus on understanding
    • Determine the need
    • Check your emotions
    • Suspend judgment
    • Sum up at major intervals
    • Ask questions for clarity
    • Make listening and understanding a priority